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Somehow I felt pity to some guys that they are trying so hard to changed themselves just to please their ex and hoping for second chance. Seriously, when a women says break up, she really mean it, she has thought of the break up for a period of time and she is very clear on what she need and do. No matter the breaks up  is better or worse, there is no way it will be the same again, no matter what you do and how much you change. 

Avoid repeating below and get moving on,

Stop Calling her, it’s hard but it will save you from prolonging you to start a new life, if she is willing to answer you calls, it will just cause more pain to you in long run.

Don’t send her Email, you may want her to still remember the existence of you, but you doesn’t know she will read or delete the email right away. Don’t be a fools, most likely you will not get any response and it just waste of time.

Stop stalking her account, the only place you can view her activity is through facebook or friendster, there’s no point doing that as she doesn’t belong to you anymore, what she do and who she with is no longer your responsible. Utilize this time to called up some friends and met new girl would be better.

Don’t tell her she make a mistake,  there’s always 2 side of a coins, no matter you are right or wrong, if you give her advice that you think is a mistake, she will not listen and will go ahead doing it, because you are no longer someone special and remember, you are not longer part of her life anymore.

Don’t beg for change,  it’s common that when a women breaks up with a men, the men would take all things seriously and promise to change, and take all her previous requests more seriously. It’s too late, you can’t turn back time, what is done is done. Accept the facts that she is no longer worth your efforts, learn and grow from the relationship to better serve your new girlfriend. 

Once again, when a relationship end, no matter what you do and change, it will never be the same again, the trust and scar is there.

Notes: This post is dedicated to all heartbreak friends and commentators in post - 10 years of relationship broke up sad sad story

Love is beautiful, Love is unconditional, Love is trust, Love is understanding, Love is loyal, Love is missing each other, Love is sharing, Love is sacrificing and Love is happiness. Is this what love is all about? Love is just 4 letter words that play us hard. Some said true love is “unconditional”, some said “Love is a temporary madness”, some said “Love is chemistry”. When love turned BAD? hatred? argument? and heartbreak? Love is sad, Love is painful, Love is miserable, Love is resentment, Love is grudges, Love is anger, Love is tears, Love is suffering. Love can be better if …

Love is about forgiveness.

“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.”

Without forgiveness we can’t love. From the perspective of spiritual reality, the statements “I love you but don’t forgive you” and “I forgive you but I don’t love you” are impossibilities. Love and forgiveness go hand in hand. We can’t have one without the other.

Do you love him/her? Is it hard to say “I’m sorry”? Is it hard to “forgive” someone you love so much hurting you? I have been into that situation before, I have been hurt badly, I can’t breath, I am suffering, with so much mixed feeling of emotion and tears, I hated him so much. What is wrong here?

Someone hurting you so much, leaving you with another girl. You are in anger, You are suffering, You can’t sleep, You can’t eat, You can’t work and You CRY. Can you see anything wrong here? You are suffering. You can think of thousand reasons why he left you, it’s because you aren’t that hot, sexy, compatible, caring, understanding on and on. With so many reasons that you can think off, why can’t you think of forgiving him. Is it so hard to forgive? Think about it, You are suffering.

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” - Gandhi

Well, it is often when something went wrong, it is someone to be blamed, in any case, you might be the victim. You may say “How can he did that to me, I am being so nice to him? I am innocent, I cant forgive him forever”. STOP that negative feeling. True forgiveness is not something we do for another person. Only the strongest person can forgive, it’s not about them, it’ about you, it’s ALL ABOUT YOU, it’s about letting go the hurt and hatred that stop you from becoming happy again. When you forgive a person, doesn’t mean you are wrong or lose. You don’t do it for them, you don’t have to think of are they worth to be forgiven, you are doing it for yourself. Don’t let the people who hurt you so much stay in your heart and mind, they are not worth/eligible to be placed there. Stop being a prisoner because of someone mistakes. Stop them prolonging you to suffer. Please! Forgive and let go and feel good about it.

My fellow readers and friends, I sincerely hope that this post will change your mind if you feel anger or hatred to someone that makes you sad today. Forgive the person and I guarantee you will feel good.

” If we really want to love we must learn how to forgive ” - Mother Teresa

PS: Something for laugh here, do you think Beckham should be forgiven by Victoria? (picture below)

Beckham and Victoria

Just a little white lies to help smooth things over??

#1: I’ve things to do

Endless works to be done? It’s solid enough to get you out of just about anything, as she will never want to come across as an obstacle to your success. Bear in mind, it is not advisable to use it too often as you have to pay dearly for that.

#2: I didn’t want to buy you something you didn’t want

Some guys rely on this excuse as they forgot to buy their girls something. This is because buying a present for the girl involves a certain amount of stress. The consequences of neglecting to buy her something could be more stressful than you know. If you take this opportunity to bring her out for shopping, Be ware, she will usually punish you by spending triple what you originally had in mind.

#3: I was just looking at how slutty she is

Checking out girls in front of your girlfriend? This is a white lie that helps make her feel better and give you free to revel around the girls.

#4: You look great in everything you wear

“Does this dress make me look fat?”

Some guys commented the best answer is to say nothing and keep silently, or go for this smooth line of reasoning.

#5: My battery is running low

Guys use this when they are in awkward situation, such as in a group of friends or they found it inappropriate to talk to their girls: engaging in work?? Or, they just wanna avoid the girlfriend’s call. However, not to abuse it too often as the consequence could be tedious to handle.

#6: Depending on where they live, here are the favorite excuses men give for infidelity:

• South Africa: It’s better than taking a second or third wife.
• United States: There is no love in my marriage.
• France: I asked my wife to dress up and be sexy, but she wouldn’t do it.
• Japan: It’s not adultery if I pay for sex!

 

What is this???!!!

Here is a good post while I was searching for some infos. Worth while for you guys to spare some times at it, if you wanted to have a smooth-sailing relationship.

Women are straight foward: if you say the right things in an appropriate tone of voice, they’ll do what you want, and if you piss them off and are dumb enough to stand around, they’ll rip your head off.

#1: Show commitments about the future of being with her.

Women feel secure abt commitments, especially when you include her in you future plans. Say something that indicates to her that you intend to be a part of her life now and in future. Example, letting her know you already have a plan for two for you for along time.

 #2: Give compliments

Women can’t live without compliments, trust me its true, its not the matter of women just wanting to hear compliments. Don’t hessitate to give compliments if you are genuinely mean it because the benefits will come back to you. Example:

“This dress looks great on you.”

“You look incredible” Every girl wants to hear this, when she has some troubles to look nice.

 However, bear in mind, empty flattery is not a good idea!!

#3: Be Jealous

Women love to be pampered, show them how much we care. To them, men are the protectors in a relationship, they get irritated if men don’t act like it and started to look elsewhere. Example, demnstrates that the guy don’t want to lose her to anyone, being protective against other. You may use: “Who is that guy?” She will think you are still holding the competition.

#4: Ask questions

Women loves attention, we like it when our men demonstrate an interest on us. Example, like paying attention to previous conversations and remembering the key details. This of course it’s a score and can impress us!

Commonly asked questions:

“How was you day?” - simple, effective and a good start.

 ”How’s your mother doing? Better?” - impactful and will be impressed that you remembered to speak about her mother condition.

Just as important as what you say is how you say it.

Have you ever tried them?

I find this song bring a meaningful message, love can’t everything be money and should not be money. The ultimate secret of love is sharing emotion and feelings together. Enjoy !

“Write You A Song”

I don’t know how to make lots of money
I got debts that I’m trying to pay
I can’t buy you nice things, like big diamond rings
But that don’t mean much anyway
I can’t give you the house you’ve been dreaming
If I could I would build it alone
I’d be out there all day, just hammering away
Make us a place of our own

I will write you a song
That’s how you’ll know that my love is still strong
I will write you a song
And you’ll know from this song that I just can’t go on without you

I don’t know that I’d make a good soldier
I don’t believe in being violent and cruel
I don’t know how to fight, but I’ll draw blood tonight
If somebody tries hurting you

I will write you a song
That’s how you’ll know that my love is still strong
I will write you a song
And you’ll know from this song that I just can’t go on without you

Now that it’s out on the table (it’s out on the table)
Both of us knew all along (knew all along)
I’ve got your loving and you’ve got my song

I don’t know how to make lots of money
I don’t know all the right things to do
I can’t say where we’ll go, but the one thing I know
Is how to be a good man to you
Until I die that’s what I’ll do

I will write you a song
That’s how you’ll know that my love is still strong
I will write you a song
And you’ll know from this song that I just can’t go on without
I will write you a song (I will write you a song)
That’s how you’ll know that my love is still strong (love is still strong)
I will write you a song
And you know from this song that I just can’t go on without you