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Why jealousy can be a big NO NO in a relationship? It’s because jealousy can jeorpadise a successful and satisfying relationship in long run. The number one reason people feel jealousy is when they felt suspicious towards their partner talking (face to face or phone) to opposite sex, being unfaithful and afraid of losing the one they love most is pretty scary. When jealousy hits you, you may feels like exploding, can’t breath and somehow the flame from your heart pounds to your throat and make you can’t talk. You are on FIRE, I bet the most fierce animal won’t dare to walk near you.

Jealousy can really be a big issue in a romance relationship, if you would like to make it BIG hoo haa issue, it can really cause a BIG disaster and worst most affecting NOT only your current relationship but your future relationships as well.  Jealousy need to be treated as soon as it was created, jealousy aren’t evil as you thought because jealousy can be controlled. Some may argue that how can someone control his/her jealousy if their spouse or lover has a sexual relationship with someone else? True, if it’s suspicious then is jealousy, if it’s fact, then it’s another chapter about forgiveness.

Jealousy is not fun, even a slightest cause of jealousy could spark anger and frustration in a relationship. A fews more round of jealousy and run out of control can destroy the entire long lasting relationship back to ground zero, trust and honesty vanished after years being together. The whole relationship run into turmoil and take all away the sweet and quality time once have. What left is on going fights where each of you would only dig out each other negative quality insted of positive one to win the debate. We can witnessed this on the recent anwar debate on TV, the personal attack war.

What actually causes jealousy? One word to define “Fear”, jealousy is cause by insecurity and low self-esteem. We are afraid of losing someone, that’s why we feel jealous,  we love someone and afraid that he/she stop loving us or taken away from others, that’s why we are jealous. No one like to be abandoned and taken away thing he/she like most. It’s a reflection or sign to defend our insecurity, our worthiness as a lover. We feels like that we deserve and must treated the most care but unfortunately things aren’t getting your way and you feel the threat and your relationship run haywire, you think much and it gives power to jealousy to take place, it fuelled your fear and explode you into a mad person, this is when Jealousy took power and conquer you.

So, how do one overcome jealousy? The answer is easy, look at yourself, what makes you fear of losing him/her? Does this mean you don’t trust or understand your partner much, who’s fault? Where is the most important element in a relationship, communication? Have you never done better? If all this doesn’t help, then just say this “If he can change so easily, just take this thrash out of my life, because I don’t want him anymore.” Peace and Clean …