Somehow I felt pity to some guys that they are trying so hard to changed themselves just to please their ex and hoping for second chance. Seriously, when a women says break up, she really mean it, she has thought of the break up for a period of time and she is very clear on what she need and do. No matter the breaks up is better or worse, there is no way it will be the same again, no matter what you do and how much you change.
Avoid repeating below and get moving on,
Stop Calling her, it’s hard but it will save you from prolonging you to start a new life, if she is willing to answer you calls, it will just cause more pain to you in long run.
Don’t send her Email, you may want her to still remember the existence of you, but you doesn’t know she will read or delete the email right away. Don’t be a fools, most likely you will not get any response and it just waste of time.
Stop stalking her account, the only place you can view her activity is through facebook or friendster, there’s no point doing that as she doesn’t belong to you anymore, what she do and who she with is no longer your responsible. Utilize this time to called up some friends and met new girl would be better.
Don’t tell her she make a mistake, there’s always 2 side of a coins, no matter you are right or wrong, if you give her advice that you think is a mistake, she will not listen and will go ahead doing it, because you are no longer someone special and remember, you are not longer part of her life anymore.
Don’t beg for change, it’s common that when a women breaks up with a men, the men would take all things seriously and promise to change, and take all her previous requests more seriously. It’s too late, you can’t turn back time, what is done is done. Accept the facts that she is no longer worth your efforts, learn and grow from the relationship to better serve your new girlfriend.
Once again, when a relationship end, no matter what you do and change, it will never be the same again, the trust and scar is there.
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June 29th, 2008 at 8:10 pm
I always believe that once a couple breaks up, there is no turning back. The past is the past. And somehow always, the girl turns petty and start lamenting what a lousy boyfriend you are. Happened to me.
June 29th, 2008 at 8:13 pm
The opposite is also true for women actually
June 30th, 2008 at 11:48 pm
Hi Darran,
Breaks up is sucks, take a grip and get move on. Just let it be, she’s still holding to the past and you should just take it as it is, what’s goes round comes around works. Hope for better..
Hi Krisandro,
I agreed, no exception, it apply to male or female.
July 31st, 2008 at 2:42 pm
i notice, there is a type of guy who will take it as nothing happen and after a few weeks find the girl again like they were still together.
and funny thing, when the girl moved on, he says she cheated on him.
August 3rd, 2008 at 12:43 am
Hi Jazzieeaa,
When something goes wrong, there’s always someone to be blamed, however is irresponsible of him to blamed you without fact. Everyone has their choice of being with someone.
August 25th, 2008 at 10:54 pm
I never thought she was capable of cheating, I guess I was wrong.