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This post is especially dedicated to my beloved Quan who was always on my mind.

Your presence brought happiness to me, I had pulled through challanges, which had made me more stronger than ever.

Your laughters were once the jokes of our life, we felt bored and empty when you were not around.

Your optimistism was my hope when I was in darkness, you lighted my life with just who you were.

Your courage was my respect and the never-dying spirit always burning in my heart.

We are proud of YOU and Thank you for the memory you’d shared with us.

Roses grow and fade, Seasons come and go, though I will not stop missing you…

Kisses, Sista

First of all I felt sorry for the long post, however I tried to long story short but I do not want to miss any pieces that will be helpful to you in some ways and I hope this post can really give awareness of alcoholic for women. Men, we(women) know your trick, it’s too obvious. Come on, don’t take women for granted and ruins their life.

Somehow the idea of this post came out from this story which I stumble upon and saddened by the incident that alcoholic has ruins a girl happiness, yet it may be more worst than this story but I really hope that we(women) should always love ourself and don’t let our emotion control our mind and do something stupid. Here’s my share and please read, at the end of the story there are some facts about women and alcoholic.

Note: rephrase for better reading.
I am 21 this year and working as a cosmetics promoter. I have a boyfriend who is 27 and he is working as a salesman. He has been wonderful to me for many years. True, sometimes I lament slightly that I wasn’t able to be like some of my girlfriends who have rich boyfriend who can buy them anything they want, however, my love for him is much more than this kind of materialistic thoughts. We do quarrels at sometimes, but it is always him who give in and I really appreciate him. In fact, I learn how to cook so that in some way, I can show him how much I love him even though I’m scared of burning oil. After four years relationship, we plan to get married in Dec this year.

I have a manager and he is always very nice and helpful to me. In fact, he is always the one who tries to ‘protect’ me whenever I met up with difficulties at work. He’s like my friend. A few months back, he confessed his love to me and bought me a diamond necklace. He is 49 years old with two childrens. I treated him like a father and a good friend but never in my wildest dreams that I ever thought I would hear this from him. I was too stunned to reply and told him that I am getting married soon and it’s impossible between us. He saw my stunned reaction and quickly reassured me that he would not bring it up again.

However, a month before some incident happened and changed my life. I had a bad fight with my boyfriend in front of his family, while dressing up my wedding gown that I like most for photo-taking session and came out from the fitting room, my prospective mother-in-law stood up and disagreed with my choice and deemed it to be too revealing as it has a bare-back design. However, I insisted for that gown but my boyfriend actually asked me to change it for the sake of his mother. I got angry and said “it’s our wedding, not your mum” and I forced him to pay on the spot. He paid and I can feel that he is not happy, yet, he shouted me in front of his mum and shop assistants, he shouted me for not respecting his mum’s wishes. Never yet before he has been so hostile to me, I am really sad. All this while, his mum doesn’t really like me because she always lament that I psycho her son not to stay with his parents after marriage. This agreement of not staying with parent-in-laws had been decided between me and my boyfriend and not just me. In fact, her son tried to explain to her but she always feel that it is me. I had tolerated her for so long. 

I ran out with my gown and tears, many onlookers using strange expressions towards me, but I don’t care because I felt so disappointing and sad. I ran and sat alone in a deserted spot, thinking much and thought of cancelling the wedding and leave him. A moment later, he sms me looking for me. I was happy for his intention to worried about me but I couldn’t stand the incident happened in the shop. At this moment of time, I think of him(my manager), I called him and asked him out to talk to confide me. He knew something was wrong and he was very gentle and reassured it on the phone, within half an hour, he brought me to a nearby restaurant with quiet environment. He was very nice, despite the fact that I was still in my wedding gown and many onlookers gave us the ’strange’ look. He even told me not to care about how people looked. I really don’t know what came over me, while telling about my grievances with my boyfriend’s mum over the many months. I just drank and drank the red wine, the more I drank, the more I feel that all my bottled up feelings were released, my manager told me not to drink so much, but i don’t really care. Later, I asked him to bring me to nearby beach, that is the place where I always found peace when I am moody. I think I was heavily drunk. I really can’t think properly, inside the car, I saw the plane flying above me, how I wished that me and boyfriend can just fly off to a place far away from his mum. I don’t know what came over me. I just kept crying and in my drunken and emotional state. I actually mistook my manager as my boyfriend. The last thing I remembered was I hugged and I kissed him,  and ended up having sex.

When I woke up, I was shocked to see my manager beside me. I was hysterical, I HAD ACTUALLY DONE SOMETHING SO STUPID! I BETRAYED MY BOYFRIEND! I remembered my manager trying to calm me down, but I pushed him away, I was so angry with myself, why did I drink so much (a bottle??), why did I actually mistake him for my boyfriend? Was it because in my heart, my manager is someone who has provided me with so much sense of security? that it can actually develop into this kind of actions from me? I have so many questions but I can’t forgive myself.

For this past month, I don’t dare to meet my boyfriend. I feel that I have betrayed him. I felt so much guilt because of our religion, we were both very strict about the principle of staying chaste till our marriage but I ACTUALLY GIVEN IT TO MY MANAGER?! I’m very scared that I will get pregnant and caught any sexually transmitted disease because I think during that night, we had unprotected sex. If that happens, I think I won’t be able to live in this world. 

My boyfriend tried to contact me many times, but I avoided him and even lied to him I am in overseas. At the end, due to courages and firm decision to lessen my guilt and pain, I think he should deserved a better girl. Finally, I confronted everything to him, he cried and angry, shouted me on the phone and hung up. I did not angry him, because I think I deserved it. I know that I have done wrong and thats why I deserved it. Most probably, I will live with this guilt forever. I really regretted that alcohol has ruins my happiness life for this.
-END-

Taking advantage of women drunk has been played millions of times, yet it’s been going on. Sad but true, women get drunk faster than men, even both consume the same amount, regardless differences in body weight, a woman will attain a higher blood alcohol concentration than a man from the same amount of alcohol. This may be because women have lower levels of Alcohol Dehydrogenase (ADH), an enzyme involved in the metabolism of alcohol.

How the story ended so sadly because while he(the manager) is drinking right along with her, he was simply not getting as drunk, but she drank herself into a blackout stage and later he took advantage of the situation.

Women are more sensitive to alcohol and yet it posseseses risk of developing serious illnesses and an increased risk of heart disease, liver disease, ulcers, reproductive problems, osteoporosis, pancreatitis, memory loss, and other illnesses caused by substance and alcohol abuse. It’s more to count but what really do effect us women are menstrual disorders, which can lead to fertility problems if consume more and study showed that women who drink two to five alcoholic drinks each day, were 41 percent more likely to develop breast cancer than nondrinkers. To read more fact about women and alcoholic, here’s a site that I strictly recommend –> women and alcohol

Alcohol not just bring alot of troubles but also for men who drink and drive you may end your life and hurt the one you loved as well. Think about it, the christmas is near the corner, I believe some of you will be out for party, drink moderately and self control to end any tragic than is waiting for you.

Thanks and Merry Christmas !

Breakfast can help prevent strokes, heart attack and sudden death. Advice on not to skip breakfast!

Healthy living
For those who always skip breakfast, you should stop that habit now! You’ve heard many times that “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day.” Now, recent research confirms that one of the worst practices you can develop may be avoiding breakfast.

Why?

Because the frequency of heart attack, sudden death, and stroke peaks between 6:00a.m. and noon, with the highest incidence being between 8: 00a.m. and 10:00a.m.What mechanism within the body could account for this significant jump in sudden death in the early morning hours?

Platelet, tiny elements in the blood that keep us from bleeding to Death if we get a cut, can clump together inside our arteries due to
cholesterol or laque buildup in the artery lining. It is in the morning hours that platelets become the most activated and tend to form these internal blood clots at the greatest frequency.

We may have an Answer.

However, eating even a very light breakfast prevents the morning platelet activation that is associated with heart attacks and strokes. Studies performed at Memorial University in St.Johns, Newfoundland found that eating a light, very low-fat breakfast was critical in modifying the morning platelet activation. Subjects in the study consumed either low-fat or fat-free yogurt, orange juice, fruit, and a source of protein coming from yogurt or fat-free milk. So if you skip breakfast, it’s important that you change this practice immediately in light of this research. Develop a simple plan to eat cereal, such as oatmeal or Bran Flakes, along with six ounces of grape juice or orange juice, and perhaps a piece of fruit. This simple plan will keep your platelets from sticking together, keep blood clots from forming, and perhaps head off a potential Heart Attack or stroke. So never ever skip breakfast.

Do you know your socioeconomic status? I came across this interactive website from The New York Times. Although is based on US population, however, you could use that as a reference to simulate yourself. I am quite impressed with this chart as it’s clearly defined and measurement is based on occupation, education, income and wealth. According to The New York Times, the four factors are the most influential ways to determine a person class although there’re numerous elements to take into consideration.

It seem quite disapointing because there’s isn’t any lecturer job title for education, however it wasn’t bad being “Post Secondary Teachers”, 25th most prestigious job out of few hundred listed there.

I had done checking mine, how about you? The chart could be a motivation for you to level up yourself to a better position class you desired.

Check your socioeconomic class here. Have Fun!

What makes you angry? I’m sure there are something in your mind now, so please please tell me and appreciate much ur comments.

The world today seems such an angry place, u can say it’s an interesting yet irritating planet. I would like to know what has people acting so angry and frustrated, whether is your fiinances, your job, your government. Please leave ur age and sex and what part of the world or country you live in with ur comments.. just keep the ball rolling “Tell me” I am listening! Thank You!!!

I would say:

#1: I get angry when people come up to me to try to make a point even though they know NOTHING about the subject! and they still think that they are right!

#2: bad drivers, people who talk on a cell phone while driving, fast food employees who don’t get your order right..

Come on guys, pls pls help me, keep the ball rolling and I am hear to listen… thank you!!