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So, you like her and she tells you that she has a boyfriend. What does it mean? It doesn’t mean much if she doesn’t walk away from you. It’s obvious, what she wants to tell you is “Please get off my sight and leave me alone”. Its sad to be true, if she is attracted to you no matter what, she will often hide the boyfriend from you.

There are many reasons when girls say that she has a boyfriend, but to make things easy, I would show you only 5 reasons why a woman might say she has a boyfriend. If you happened to meet the girl not long, and it’s hard for you to really find out actually she has a boyfriend or not, it’s not important in the case that him exists or not, what you want to know is the motive behind why she said so.

1. She might not have a boyfriend, she’s just not in to you. It’s just her polite way to reject you.
2. She might have a boyfriend, she chose her boyfriend out of you, she wanted to stick to the relationship.
3. She might have a boyfriend and willing to start a relationship with you. It’s obvious she wants to cheat on him (maybe the relationship isn’t good), she told you because she doesn’t want to feel guilty about it and she want to see if giving up her current boyfriend and be with you is a good choice or not, she’s playing safe, this is what we called 2 timings. As long as she mentions she has a boyfriend before go into a relationship with you, she can tell herself that it was your fault (if she chosen to go back to her boyfriend), as she already told you earlier if she has a boyfriend.
4. She does not have a boyfriend, but she’s attracted to you, she don’t want to look “CHEAP” who can’t get a man. Beautiful woman tried to play hard to get using this method, since beautiful girls are always lingered around by Nice Guys, she can simply pick one as her boyfriend and these nice guys won’t hesitate being borrowed as tools.
5. The worst among all, she might have a boyfriend and willing to sleep with you without string attached. She wanted to make sure you understand her situation first. She’s obviously cheating her boyfriend searching for lust. There’s’ no commitment involved.

Since the word “boyfriend” can have so many different meanings, its really hard to decipher the code what she really means. No matter what, I always think that the lesser mind game in a relationship the better it is, and honesty is the best policy in any relationship. If she can cheat her boyfriend and be with you, I am afraid she would repeat that to you again. Choose wisely and good luck!

You don’t have to be an expert in mind-reading to know a woman signs to dump you. If she feels that the relationship is not going to work out and is near the end, her action would often sends out naturally and in most cases you would be able to spot the signs and don’t get shocked if you get dumped because there are plenty of warning signs she had hinted you earlier.

If you are paying attention and noticed that she had the warning signs, would it be good or bad news for you? The next question would be, what should you do?

It would definitely be good news as you know you are going to be sentenced to death rather than shot dead immediately. Since you are fallen into negative zone of women, whatever you do will only make her “annoying”. I know how sucks it is, be prepared. Since you cannot change the cards you are to dealt, but you can turn things around on how you play the hand. You know her better, you think about it on how to save the relationship. If you choose to ignore, you will hurt harder when the reality sink in.

Here’s the signs she wants to dump you:

1. She’s avoiding talking to you face to face, your family and friends.
2. She never wants to answers your calls or calls you back when you missed call, never reply your email or sms.
3. She keeps giving you excuses when you ask her out.
4. She told you to go meet other woman or social more or hinted you to give up her.
5. She never wants to argue with you and seems afraid of you.
6. You did nothing wrong and she says you are “annoying”.
7. Earlier event, vacation plan she cancelled last minute or reluctant to take part.
8. She stop calling you “dear, sweetheart, baby” which she use to, instead calling your name.
9. She no longer wants to touch you and not interested to have sex with you.
10. She replaced your pictures with her own picture or none.
11. She no longer wants to hold your hand or kiss you in public.

Shopping and what’s window shopping, and how often do we window shop? The definition of window shopping is:

“Window shopping” is an English phrase meaning to look into glass windows of a shop for entertainment and imagine purchasing items without actually purchasing, possibly just to pass the time between other activities, or planning a purchase.

Some claims that� window shopping” means someone wants to go shopping for new windows, which is true. So, why called window shopping? If it’s not buying window. The only explanation given is because you’re browsing by looking at items through WINDOWS and you might possibly go into the store, find it, and buy it, and why baby oil named as such when it not made of babies? That�s because it is to use on baby. Got it?

The different between men and women is men tend to go shopping when in needs, while women go shopping for nothing, and it looks like it has been implant into our brain that we just love shopping. Men go in the shop and out in 5 minutes, while women have to touch everything before purchased, they walk out in 30 minutes, buying the same thing.

Men and women use their brains differently- women use both sides of their brain- men tend to be One sided in thought. Do you agree with this?

We enjoy Looking at pretty things, comparing prices, getting a bargain, planning on the next purchase, seeing what is new, etc.

Men’s logic and “linear” or “left-brained” thinking is attacked by feminists just as much as women’s intuition and “holistic” and “right-brained” tendencies of thought and outlook are attacked by chauvinists.

Yet again, because men don’t pay attention to what they are getting. They just grab something and go. Most of them don’t shop to save money, bargain hunt.

Women on the other hand shop for good deals trying to save money. And women also have to fix most of the meals for the family as well. So they have to make the money stretch and of course make up what the husband/boyfriend spent extra on.

Here’s another innovative ways to window shop:

Looks may be superficial, but they are a big part of the first impression. If a person is very good-looking physically, and we know nothing about him, we are attracted. If not very good-looking, and we know nothing about him, it’s natural to not feel attracted.

#1: I once knew a guy who had “drop-dead” Hollywood good looks. Everyone who met him had that “wow” reaction. Later, I learned he was self-centered, dishonest, inconsiderate and kind of ignorant about a lot of things. Most of the people who really knew him didn’t think of him as handsome at all! 

The thing to do is to get to know a guy better. First, be an acquaintance. If you learn more about him that makes you want to spend time with him, then be friends. After a while, if he proves he has tremendous “inner beauty” you may feel that attraction.

#2: The flower attracts bees with color and fragrance and the venus fly trap attracts prey with the promise of meat.

#3: A close friend of mine once told me, most guys that are good looking are often selfish and ignorant that only want to date many women at the same time, the same theory applies to beautiful ladies. Though I don’t think it’s true for everyone. So just read his soul, and if his inner is beautiful, catch the guy before some other does it.

#4: Physical appearance is important, but not the “most” important variable. If the person “hurts” my eyes, I cross that person off my list realizing this sounds superficial. I consider, honesty, intelligence, hygiene, the sound of a persons voice, speech pattern, and laughter, personal habits, mental health, posture, style of ambulation kindness, acceptance, sense of self, sense of humor, degree of positive attitude, prejudices, stability, displays of sensitivity and altruism, common sense, and the characteristics that he will contribute to the genetic potential of any of his offspring.

To me, a bit of everything matters, but not everything that shines is precious. As we discussed before in my previous post of “What do you look for in a girl”, inner beauty and pleasant personality are the most crucial things for majority to put under consideration as a lifetime partner.

I summarized as this way, nature has its own course, and natural selection is the rule of the universal. Survivors are those with stronger body and mind, those who are able to withstand unfavourable conditions, thus move forward to another level of life. The reason why we attracted to beautiful people because we think they have better nurture and child-bearing properties to favour the natural selection.

True or not?

How do you know for sure that your man is cheating without snooping through his things?

#1: This is a hard one, the only way I got proof if I snooped. I know it’s wrong to do, but you also have the urgent need to know the truth. There are usually signs that you can look for if the two of you live together. It would be harder if you didn’t. But if he starts making excuses all the time to stay out late or not come home. Seems more distant and doesn’t treat you the same. That could be signs, even though its not concrete evidence either. If he is not treating you as good as you should be because he might be cheating, then that is your excuse for breaking up with him without your evidence.

#2: Go with your gut feeling. Tell him, “I feel something is wrong, what do you think?”. See what his reaction is. If he is quick to defend himself, you might want to start keeping a closer eye on him. Ultimately, if you are in a relationship where 100% trust is not being displayed or used, then maybe you need to be honest with him and simply say “I don’t feel that our relationship is 100% honest, not really sure why….I just feel that way”. Then just let nature take it’s course.

I will say that snooping is not the best way to find him cheating or not. I am more concerning about his behaviour and the way he treats me. But since you suspect he is there’s clearly no trust. Without trust, there’s no relationship. This is because suspicion is a self fulfilling prophecy, if you don’t have trust in the relationship it is in for a rocky time anyway.

Do you think I am too soft-hearted?