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So, you like her and she tells you that she has a boyfriend. What does it mean? It doesn’t mean much if she doesn’t walk away from you. It’s obvious, what she wants to tell you is “Please get off my sight and leave me alone”. Its sad to be true, if she is attracted to you no matter what, she will often hide the boyfriend from you.

There are many reasons when girls say that she has a boyfriend, but to make things easy, I would show you only 5 reasons why a woman might say she has a boyfriend. If you happened to meet the girl not long, and it’s hard for you to really find out actually she has a boyfriend or not, it’s not important in the case that him exists or not, what you want to know is the motive behind why she said so.

1. She might not have a boyfriend, she’s just not in to you. It’s just her polite way to reject you.
2. She might have a boyfriend, she chose her boyfriend out of you, she wanted to stick to the relationship.
3. She might have a boyfriend and willing to start a relationship with you. It’s obvious she wants to cheat on him (maybe the relationship isn’t good), she told you because she doesn’t want to feel guilty about it and she want to see if giving up her current boyfriend and be with you is a good choice or not, she’s playing safe, this is what we called 2 timings. As long as she mentions she has a boyfriend before go into a relationship with you, she can tell herself that it was your fault (if she chosen to go back to her boyfriend), as she already told you earlier if she has a boyfriend.
4. She does not have a boyfriend, but she’s attracted to you, she don’t want to look “CHEAP” who can’t get a man. Beautiful woman tried to play hard to get using this method, since beautiful girls are always lingered around by Nice Guys, she can simply pick one as her boyfriend and these nice guys won’t hesitate being borrowed as tools.
5. The worst among all, she might have a boyfriend and willing to sleep with you without string attached. She wanted to make sure you understand her situation first. She’s obviously cheating her boyfriend searching for lust. There’s’ no commitment involved.

Since the word “boyfriend” can have so many different meanings, its really hard to decipher the code what she really means. No matter what, I always think that the lesser mind game in a relationship the better it is, and honesty is the best policy in any relationship. If she can cheat her boyfriend and be with you, I am afraid she would repeat that to you again. Choose wisely and good luck!

Girls, if you happen to be in a group of girls in club, or either standing alone somewhere in station or inside elevator with a man. WATCH OUT! he could be another pick up artist, if he initiated to talk to you by wearing some weird stuff (not always), they called it “peacocking”, most likely this guy might be another pick up artist. How do you certain that he is another pick up artist?

Here’s some simple guide that I had gather from a guy friend who claimed himself a pick up artist. It’s obvious, most pick up artist just want sex. They have their own model of strategy to manipulate and control mind and environment under different circumstances, and most likely it would have less failure rate as they have been experiencing the same routine and practicing them everytime.

Pick up artist often carry the same pick up lines, they would start by asking something that cultivate your curiousity or trying to ask opinion from a girl point  of view. It seems like a courteous way of asking, but it’s hidden with an agenda behind, they would continue with some usual test, like IQ test, horoscope, handwriting test and other physiology test that would interest you, because everyone are curious about themselves. If you happened to be in a group of  girls and approach by pickup artist, if you noticed, they would always not talking to the one that he chosen as target, apparrently, if the target seems to talk, he would try to humiliate her, not too far but able to keep the girl silent, they called it “neg”. This method is trying to make the girl jealous for not getting attention from him. Once succeeded, he would go after the neglected target girl and would try to isolate the target from the group, through this way, the target would want to get accepted that she’s not abandon or aren’t attractive. 

There are more tricks, such as infamous “cocky funny” techniques which at the same time being arrogant and funny to attract your attention. If you are with guys, they have this alpha male of group technique to neutralize the guy friend who is protecting you by dominating the situation. These pick up artist has nothing but treating every approaches as challenge and game. Their motive is clear, sex ….

Girls, despite all the tricks they have and we girls might not aware how many more new tricks is coming out, pick up artist are good sweet talker, gentle and sensitive towards woman, but they aren’t sincere.

It’s very hard to determine its sincere or not, there’s only 1 method that I always believe that works, pick up artist and player has no patient, they won’t put much efforts into a girl, they lost their patient after a period of time and start “sarging” other girls, while sincere guy are different, they look for love and not lust. It’s better to take a longer time to know a person more before putting your body at risk.

You don’t have to be an expert in mind-reading to know a woman signs to dump you. If she feels that the relationship is not going to work out and is near the end, her action would often sends out naturally and in most cases you would be able to spot the signs and don’t get shocked if you get dumped because there are plenty of warning signs she had hinted you earlier.

If you are paying attention and noticed that she had the warning signs, would it be good or bad news for you? The next question would be, what should you do?

It would definitely be good news as you know you are going to be sentenced to death rather than shot dead immediately. Since you are fallen into negative zone of women, whatever you do will only make her “annoying”. I know how sucks it is, be prepared. Since you cannot change the cards you are to dealt, but you can turn things around on how you play the hand. You know her better, you think about it on how to save the relationship. If you choose to ignore, you will hurt harder when the reality sink in.

Here’s the signs she wants to dump you:

1. She’s avoiding talking to you face to face, your family and friends.
2. She never wants to answers your calls or calls you back when you missed call, never reply your email or sms.
3. She keeps giving you excuses when you ask her out.
4. She told you to go meet other woman or social more or hinted you to give up her.
5. She never wants to argue with you and seems afraid of you.
6. You did nothing wrong and she says you are “annoying”.
7. Earlier event, vacation plan she cancelled last minute or reluctant to take part.
8. She stop calling you “dear, sweetheart, baby” which she use to, instead calling your name.
9. She no longer wants to touch you and not interested to have sex with you.
10. She replaced your pictures with her own picture or none.
11. She no longer wants to hold your hand or kiss you in public.

Why jealousy can be a big NO NO in a relationship? It’s because jealousy can jeorpadise a successful and satisfying relationship in long run. The number one reason people feel jealousy is when they felt suspicious towards their partner talking (face to face or phone) to opposite sex, being unfaithful and afraid of losing the one they love most is pretty scary. When jealousy hits you, you may feels like exploding, can’t breath and somehow the flame from your heart pounds to your throat and make you can’t talk. You are on FIRE, I bet the most fierce animal won’t dare to walk near you.

Jealousy can really be a big issue in a romance relationship, if you would like to make it BIG hoo haa issue, it can really cause a BIG disaster and worst most affecting NOT only your current relationship but your future relationships as well.  Jealousy need to be treated as soon as it was created, jealousy aren’t evil as you thought because jealousy can be controlled. Some may argue that how can someone control his/her jealousy if their spouse or lover has a sexual relationship with someone else? True, if it’s suspicious then is jealousy, if it’s fact, then it’s another chapter about forgiveness.

Jealousy is not fun, even a slightest cause of jealousy could spark anger and frustration in a relationship. A fews more round of jealousy and run out of control can destroy the entire long lasting relationship back to ground zero, trust and honesty vanished after years being together. The whole relationship run into turmoil and take all away the sweet and quality time once have. What left is on going fights where each of you would only dig out each other negative quality insted of positive one to win the debate. We can witnessed this on the recent anwar debate on TV, the personal attack war.

What actually causes jealousy? One word to define “Fear”, jealousy is cause by insecurity and low self-esteem. We are afraid of losing someone, that’s why we feel jealous,  we love someone and afraid that he/she stop loving us or taken away from others, that’s why we are jealous. No one like to be abandoned and taken away thing he/she like most. It’s a reflection or sign to defend our insecurity, our worthiness as a lover. We feels like that we deserve and must treated the most care but unfortunately things aren’t getting your way and you feel the threat and your relationship run haywire, you think much and it gives power to jealousy to take place, it fuelled your fear and explode you into a mad person, this is when Jealousy took power and conquer you.

So, how do one overcome jealousy? The answer is easy, look at yourself, what makes you fear of losing him/her? Does this mean you don’t trust or understand your partner much, who’s fault? Where is the most important element in a relationship, communication? Have you never done better? If all this doesn’t help, then just say this “If he can change so easily, just take this thrash out of my life, because I don’t want him anymore.” Peace and Clean …

Ultimate best pick up line? do you think they exist? cut the crap. You are asking the rich what is the secret of being rich. Yes, they will write a book and give some coaching and charge you hell lots of money, that’s rich. There’s no such thing as Best Pick Up Line, if it is best, everyone will be using it, I would give you some hints what’s workable pick up line.

Please keep in mind that majority of women likes someone to be socially dominant, so if you happened to be in a group, the most outstanding one will likely be a target for them to know you more, who the hell don’t want to mix with the most popular person in a group right?

Prerequisite: Dress charmingly and smart. It is not how your appearance are, it is how you bring up your appearance that shows that you are confident.

Tips: Always ask a question without answer of YES or NO, if she say NO, you can’t continue.

1. Girl waiting someone: If he doesn’t turn up, I am here waiting for you.

2. Girl having dinner alone: What’s missing here, dessert. Do you like strawberry or chocolate?

3. Girl in the LRT/Bus Stop: I just happened to be around the city, could you show me a good restaurant here. If it’s really good, I would be thankful to you and would you mind joining me for dinner sometimes?

4. Girl in office: You dress nicely today, nothing make my day except how beautiful you look today.  

5. Girl in club: I just hate drinking alone. Let’s cheers…

If you have others more interesting one, please share with us. Good Luck Guys