Hey! Happy Chinese New Year!! As chinese we celebrate the second biggest festive in the country like nobody business. I have a few off-day and took this opportunity to share a post with you guys. P/s: Apologise for the long waiting and I am back now and stronger than ever..haha..
This topic is to highlight the signs that showing the girl you are going after is actually treat you purely on a friendship basis and is hard to go any further from the friendship. Sorry guys please get us correctly!! We don’t mean to hurt you but Love is blind sometimes.
Sign 1: She never return your calls despite millions of missed call from you
Simply! First call = as she may be playing hard to persue game. Second call = she shows less interest on you and doesn’t care to seek out your company. Third call = she is avoiding you.
Sign 2: Never ready for a relationship
Sorry to use this one when we are not interested in that guy. Women are simple creatures we often don’t want counterarguments and we don’t appreciate you as the relationship material. Probably she has more important things to be completed rather get you into a commitment.
Sign 3: She cancels plans with you without any notice
It is reasonable to cancel plans occasionally for a specific reason but if she does it consistently, move on, she holds little respect for you and ditch her quickly.
Sign 4: She avoid eye contact deliberately
Observe this one, Guys!! Girls want to close to you and make eye contacts, if they are into you. However, if she is not, she will try to avoid eye contact and physical proximity from you. This is our natural reaction to preserve some personal space to show she is not into you!
Sign 5: Her descriptive of perfect guys is not related to you at all
Come on, we are not trying to make you jealous, we are treating you as one of our friends. We are sharing thoughts of our dream guys and guys we like to hang out with. Oh god, we never relate you in the picture to get involve with you.
Sign 6: She tries to set you up with another girl
Girl do this because she treats you as a friend and wants to make certain you don’t hit on her. She never have the idea to date you. Be alert, certain girls will take this to test how much you are into her. For example, if you never try to ”convince” us that we are better than the girl we mentioned, probably you might get into troubles. haha, watch our guys.. We might confuse you sometimes…
Sign 7: She doesn’t appreciate what you have done for her.
Example: she doesn’t laugh at your jokes. This is because she can’t find your sense of humor and she doesn’t bother to pretend otherwise. Thumbs of the rule: smiling and laughing are the art of flirting, if she doesn’t laugh at all, you can be sure she shows no interest on you.
Sign 8: You see her less than twice in a month
Provided she is staying more than 50KM from you place then this sign is not valid. Girls dying to stick with the guy we interested in, no matter how and what. If she is always vague about making plans together, then please move on, we are neutral about your company and doesn’t want to commit.
Warning!!
Be alert, if you noticed 5 out of the above 8 signs then you can ditch her. “SHE IS JUST NOT INTO YOU”. and stop wasting your times, get Move On…
Any other signs you would like to share here? Or do you agree with me about the 8 signs?
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February 8th, 2008 at 9:15 am
thanks, very informative!
February 9th, 2008 at 12:53 am
shucks. I got all 8
February 11th, 2008 at 2:18 am
Very true! Once you know she is not into you, the next thing is to plan a strategy to make her into you. Identify the right strategy is the most difficult part because every girls you need to have different strategy.
February 12th, 2008 at 4:05 pm
Hello Sharen,
I’m not really good about dating and sometimes I just can’t recognize women who like me or not. Your post educated me a lot about women. Although at the moment I have a partner in life, I really can’t say I had enough experience with women beofre living with my present partner.
February 12th, 2008 at 11:31 pm
Jessie, good for you!
Based on my experience, women is an emotional animal. So if you really want to build a good relationship with women, you have to think emotionally too. Most guys don’t do it especially the relationship has been quite some time. Giving positive emotion to them and at the end you will get back the positive emotion. Hope I’m not talking crap here. 
February 18th, 2008 at 10:32 pm
Hi Jessie,
Thanks for ur constructive comments and I appreciate it alot. Women tend to be full of emotion, as what ChampDog is saying ( I totally agreed on it) and we can confess our feeling to our lovers more expressively, rather than guys. What I am saying here is women need more attention for you to discover our preferences and dislikes such as colour, food etc. Of course we need our unconditional care!! hehe after you get used to her habit, you will soon find she is just so adorable. HAHA
Hi ChampDog,
I like your reply. As mentioned I agreed with you that women is emotional sometimes. Unfortunately some guys just don’t buy this story and think we are just too hard to handle?! that’s why certain experiences are required here for the sparks in a relationship to keep burning..
Thanks and have a nice day
Regards,
Sharen S
February 18th, 2008 at 11:04 pm
For me, girls are easy to be managed. It is a matter of whether the guys want to put more effort to manage them or not. It is not hard to handle or not, it is an excuse for guys who do not want to put more effort. It is also true that we (most guys) do not really use our head to think when dealing with girls. You know what I meant.
February 19th, 2008 at 1:00 am
I got you ChampDog, god gave men a penis and a brain, but not enough blood to use both at the same time. You may falls for a girls either for lust or love huh?
However, women are likes waves and men are like rubber bands, does this sounds familiar? I agreed that women are emotional being, but if men can understand why women tend to get emotional sometimes and if women know why men try to hide themselves sometimes, you can actually see both side have their very own valid reasons for doing so and this is how men and women react and respond differently.
The above is just about mind games, laddertheory speaks it all, if you encounter some of the 8 signs, you are staying in the friends ladder. You may or may not had chance to fall into the love/sex ladder. Move on and get other girl which will rank you high in the love/sex ladder. Good luck ~
February 19th, 2008 at 10:07 pm
Dear Champdog,
Thank you for your heartening comment. It shown that you are a sensible guy with maturity thought.
Dear Kenneth,
Appreciate your comment and I think that’s is the the so-called LIFE cycle.
Thanks!
Sharen S
March 4th, 2008 at 12:30 am
I removed link from http://www.bontb.com/about because I don’t see your backlink to me.
Thanks .
March 9th, 2008 at 1:44 am
Happy Birthday to you and it’s a very good post !
March 13th, 2008 at 9:40 pm
Hello..long time din drop by….
i got some signs above all mentioned le.. haha feel hurt lo… but good article la…..
keep it up…