6 signs that your loved one had an affair!
Suspicious about your relationship? Have the gut feelings of something went wrong in the relationship? Here are the signs and symptoms…
#1: Determine your thoughts towards the relationship. Women have strong six-sense! You are being ignored by your partner and find yourself questioning about the capacity to “love”. Obviously he diverted his affections to that person.
#2: She mentions about this other person more five times in most of the conversation. She may want to share some of his details with you, upon your request. Example, if you asked her about him. Or she want to tell you about this other person and might want to involve you, depending about your girl’s behaviours.
#3: Do expect some secretive sms, email, special names and special things only for the two of them. Some of these affair relationships are the result of unfinished business from adolescence. Example having problem in socializing with the opposite sex, and “falling in and out of love” a number of times, which is so important and vital for adolescent development.
#4: Guys are more transparent in expressing their favouritism. He may ‘like you’ depends on your stability, understanding and the thought of losing the family. He will come home late, claims that he has heavy workload recently, tend to be forgetful and inpatient and also didn’t pay attention to you. Worst, he forgot about the annivesary and your birthday.
#5: He claims that your untolerable behaviour attempt him to find an easir exit from the relationship or marriage. He has no control and prefoess deep sadness for “hurting” you but his feeling drives him.
#6: Lastly, he says he didn’t love you anymore!! This sentence expresses everything.
What should you do when you found out the affair?
I suggest: Expect your loved one feelings for the other person to fade. They will fade quickly if this is a pure “I’ve fallen out of love” affair. The “romance” of adolescent love affairs start quickly and end as abruptly. Or vice versa. Play with your strategies and win the battle if you thought its worth to save the relationship.
October 7th, 2007 at 8:09 pm
It is not wise to have an affair when u are married and it is not very good to have an affair when you already had a gf. But somehow people just don’t care and this issues has been going on and on for century.
Both side should responsible for it, it could be due to personal trait of the person or it could be the relationship has no more spark.
However, no matter how, the person having affair is not right, the above is good to determine a person having affair or not, you may need evidence and if what you find out is true, i guess you should at least let him explain, if you think it is not tolerated, you should just DUMP him. Good Luck !
October 7th, 2007 at 9:05 pm
gee.. thank you so much, Dr Obvious
October 7th, 2007 at 10:16 pm
Yes, it’s not right to have affair. But now a lot ppl doesnt care of moral. I hope this wont happend to me.
October 7th, 2007 at 11:49 pm
Thanks to my dear reader-kenneth,tingtitlei, and maria! I totally agree on the discussion, no one its right to have affair. i personally think if u wanted to have an affair, you are asking troubles for yourselve.
Say NO to relationship “Affair”!!!
October 8th, 2007 at 12:20 pm
If u r still in gf/bf stage I still think it is ok!
I will practice the 321 method! Have 3 ‘ordinary’ gf/bf. Get real close to 2 & finally out of this 2 married 1! It may sound cruel & unfair to the other wan but then if u r not ’sucessful’ u can always have a ‘back’ up!
Strictly a no no if u r married! After married no pokeing around that is what u lost & the other being freedom! But I know it is easier to say then done!
Have a nice day!
October 18th, 2007 at 1:34 am
Hi Horny Ang Moh,
Your method seem materialistic but that’s the real world where we are living. That’s right, no no for married man. Seem like you will be a good husband. Keep it up.
May 9th, 2008 at 2:08 pm
What if you could recapture your ex lovers mind, heart and soul?…Wipe the slate clean? Turn back time? Even if you feel right now that your situation is too far gone…too screwed up …or just plain too darn complicated?
You already know how hard it is to just even wake up and roll out of bed in the morning. You leave your radio off on your way to work because every song is a painful reminder of him. You can’t even bear to eat at the same restaurants you took her to. And if that isn’t bad enough, you have to cope with the loss of friends and family that are on “their side”.
Did you know that most relationships can be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse.
I have a blog that has more information on some of what I’ve been writing about on relationships. If you feel like checking it out, you can find it here: http://winningyouback.blogspot.com It’s entitled “The Magic of Making Up - 10 Tips to a Happy Relationship.”
I hope you read my blog, it can improve on and possibly save your relationship.
June 27th, 2008 at 7:24 pm
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