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Women and Men are insensitive? That’s not TRUE!! Women tend to be more caring than guys because of our chile-bearing behaviour, but then how about men? One specific reason I could think of is: Because they just don’t bother!!

Why I say that? Herewith are some stories to be shared:

Story 1: Tonight was his last baseball game of the season, he’s their star pitcher. I bought him flowers. How does he react when I surprise him at the end of the game? He complains about his back hurting, storms off to the car to get his clothes & the pecks my cheek & leaves with his friends. Are all men so insensitive? Is it just because he is not that into me??

Story 2: My bf doesn’t have a car and he stays with his older brother and two friends in an apartment. When we are planning for a weekend stay, he mentioned,” I donno if you can come or you’re not allowed to ..” I was like, what does that mean and he says his bro wasn’t comfortable with it and didn’t like the ides of seeing his younger bro being flirtatious with the gf. OK fine and it just really hurt because I’m not sure when can see him again and if he really missed him, does it matter with his bro? Put it his way, we can figure out another solution of spending time together.But now I can’t decide if he is just being insensitive about my feeling or his older brother’s feelings.

Story 3: My ex-boyfriend and I just ended a 3 year relationship. We have gone through alot..living together etc. And I still have these horrible cravings to call him and to talk to him and i know that is normal. But during the whole break-up, he was completely insensitive to my feelings. I told him all the things I learned from him and how much love I will always have for him. And he has told me nothing. All he does now is go out every night and get drunk with his “new” friends.

Does he really not care about anything anymore, or is it just his way of getting over me? How can he be so care-free about suddenly not seeing me everyday or talking to me everyday for 3 years!! Why is he so insensitive?

Story 4: We met online, and in our first conversation I realized we had known each other as teenagers, which only heightened my excitement. After a few phone conversations, we made a dinner date and things goin on pretty well. However, as time goes by, I realised that he felt bored whenever I talked about my personal problems and feelings. He will give me that-kind-of-bored-look, and even to the extent of dozing off, making me felt hurt. Come one, are guys just being insensitive? Why can’t u just lend me your ears for a while?

Story 5: Insensitive men look for subtle things in the relationship that are unpleasant. They use these trials or tribulations to justify leaving. You are left wondering what went wrong because rarely will he tell you the exact reason. This also works in reverse where the woman leaves and the man is left wondering. However, insensitive men will never admit they are chauvinists born out of fear. It’s because they are continually threatened by the modern realization that women—an animal he doesn’t understand at all.

 As a conclusion: If your heart tells you he is no good then just have to talk to him. Relationships are hard and probably aren’t meant to be easy. And sometimes they just don’t work out. But, they are worth working for and sometimes a little fighting is just what happens.

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