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Somehow I felt pity to some guys that they are trying so hard to changed themselves just to please their ex and hoping for second chance. Seriously, when a women says break up, she really mean it, she has thought of the break up for a period of time and she is very clear on what she need and do. No matter the breaks up  is better or worse, there is no way it will be the same again, no matter what you do and how much you change. 

Avoid repeating below and get moving on,

Stop Calling her, it’s hard but it will save you from prolonging you to start a new life, if she is willing to answer you calls, it will just cause more pain to you in long run.

Don’t send her Email, you may want her to still remember the existence of you, but you doesn’t know she will read or delete the email right away. Don’t be a fools, most likely you will not get any response and it just waste of time.

Stop stalking her account, the only place you can view her activity is through facebook or friendster, there’s no point doing that as she doesn’t belong to you anymore, what she do and who she with is no longer your responsible. Utilize this time to called up some friends and met new girl would be better.

Don’t tell her she make a mistake,  there’s always 2 side of a coins, no matter you are right or wrong, if you give her advice that you think is a mistake, she will not listen and will go ahead doing it, because you are no longer someone special and remember, you are not longer part of her life anymore.

Don’t beg for change,  it’s common that when a women breaks up with a men, the men would take all things seriously and promise to change, and take all her previous requests more seriously. It’s too late, you can’t turn back time, what is done is done. Accept the facts that she is no longer worth your efforts, learn and grow from the relationship to better serve your new girlfriend. 

Once again, when a relationship end, no matter what you do and change, it will never be the same again, the trust and scar is there.

Notes: This post is dedicated to all heartbreak friends and commentators in post - 10 years of relationship broke up sad sad story

Love is beautiful, Love is unconditional, Love is trust, Love is understanding, Love is loyal, Love is missing each other, Love is sharing, Love is sacrificing and Love is happiness. Is this what love is all about? Love is just 4 letter words that play us hard. Some said true love is “unconditional”, some said “Love is a temporary madness”, some said “Love is chemistry”. When love turned BAD? hatred? argument? and heartbreak? Love is sad, Love is painful, Love is miserable, Love is resentment, Love is grudges, Love is anger, Love is tears, Love is suffering. Love can be better if …

Love is about forgiveness.

“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.”

Without forgiveness we can’t love. From the perspective of spiritual reality, the statements “I love you but don’t forgive you” and “I forgive you but I don’t love you” are impossibilities. Love and forgiveness go hand in hand. We can’t have one without the other.

Do you love him/her? Is it hard to say “I’m sorry”? Is it hard to “forgive” someone you love so much hurting you? I have been into that situation before, I have been hurt badly, I can’t breath, I am suffering, with so much mixed feeling of emotion and tears, I hated him so much. What is wrong here?

Someone hurting you so much, leaving you with another girl. You are in anger, You are suffering, You can’t sleep, You can’t eat, You can’t work and You CRY. Can you see anything wrong here? You are suffering. You can think of thousand reasons why he left you, it’s because you aren’t that hot, sexy, compatible, caring, understanding on and on. With so many reasons that you can think off, why can’t you think of forgiving him. Is it so hard to forgive? Think about it, You are suffering.

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” - Gandhi

Well, it is often when something went wrong, it is someone to be blamed, in any case, you might be the victim. You may say “How can he did that to me, I am being so nice to him? I am innocent, I cant forgive him forever”. STOP that negative feeling. True forgiveness is not something we do for another person. Only the strongest person can forgive, it’s not about them, it’ about you, it’s ALL ABOUT YOU, it’s about letting go the hurt and hatred that stop you from becoming happy again. When you forgive a person, doesn’t mean you are wrong or lose. You don’t do it for them, you don’t have to think of are they worth to be forgiven, you are doing it for yourself. Don’t let the people who hurt you so much stay in your heart and mind, they are not worth/eligible to be placed there. Stop being a prisoner because of someone mistakes. Stop them prolonging you to suffer. Please! Forgive and let go and feel good about it.

My fellow readers and friends, I sincerely hope that this post will change your mind if you feel anger or hatred to someone that makes you sad today. Forgive the person and I guarantee you will feel good.

” If we really want to love we must learn how to forgive ” - Mother Teresa

PS: Something for laugh here, do you think Beckham should be forgiven by Victoria? (picture below)

Beckham and Victoria

Just a little white lies to help smooth things over??

#1: I’ve things to do

Endless works to be done? It’s solid enough to get you out of just about anything, as she will never want to come across as an obstacle to your success. Bear in mind, it is not advisable to use it too often as you have to pay dearly for that.

#2: I didn’t want to buy you something you didn’t want

Some guys rely on this excuse as they forgot to buy their girls something. This is because buying a present for the girl involves a certain amount of stress. The consequences of neglecting to buy her something could be more stressful than you know. If you take this opportunity to bring her out for shopping, Be ware, she will usually punish you by spending triple what you originally had in mind.

#3: I was just looking at how slutty she is

Checking out girls in front of your girlfriend? This is a white lie that helps make her feel better and give you free to revel around the girls.

#4: You look great in everything you wear

“Does this dress make me look fat?”

Some guys commented the best answer is to say nothing and keep silently, or go for this smooth line of reasoning.

#5: My battery is running low

Guys use this when they are in awkward situation, such as in a group of friends or they found it inappropriate to talk to their girls: engaging in work?? Or, they just wanna avoid the girlfriend’s call. However, not to abuse it too often as the consequence could be tedious to handle.

#6: Depending on where they live, here are the favorite excuses men give for infidelity:

• South Africa: It’s better than taking a second or third wife.
• United States: There is no love in my marriage.
• France: I asked my wife to dress up and be sexy, but she wouldn’t do it.
• Japan: It’s not adultery if I pay for sex!

 

What is this???!!!