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How sad is it going to be actually when it comes to picking a partner, you may want to look for like-minded soul mates but the fact in reality, men wants beautiful girl and women wants rich guy. Don’t believe it?

If you only have 5 seconds to pick a mate (see below pictures), which of the following you will pick?

Do you think most of them will pick the “B”? No doubt, our ancestors actually did the same, when it comes to picking a partner, again they will do the same -> “men always seek for beautiful girl and women will always look for security, wealth and commitment.”

Most of us may want to find someone who was similar to ourselves, so that the marriage can last forever because both of them understand each other well. But how many of them actually sticks to this believe? By the way, I came across some very interesting articles from forum which you may have seen it before, however if you did not, I would like to share with you.

A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:

Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?

I’m going to be honest of what I’m going to say here. I’m 25 this year. I’m very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above. You might say that I’m greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York. My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you? Among those I’ve dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit. If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden (?), $250k annual income is not enough.

I’m here humbly to ask a few questions:

1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches is only average-looking? I’ve met a few girls who doesn’t have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys.
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)

Ms. Pretty

Here’s a reply from a Wall Street Financial guy:

Dear Ms. Pretty,
I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyze your situation as a professional investor. My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I’m not wasting time here.

From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain. Put the details aside, what you’re trying to do is an exchange of “beauty” and “money”: Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square. However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can’t be prettier year after year. Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worried 10 years later.

By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a “trading position”. If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term – same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or “leased”. Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income. This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

Looked like what that wall street expert written here sounds rational and practical. People may claim looks or money aren’t everything when picking a mate but when it comes to the crunch. According to an international study, men go for beauty and women choose wealth and security. The study was based on a speed-dating session in which men and women had “mini dates” of between three to five minutes with up to 30 different people.

After every date, the men and women marked a box on a card saying whether they would like to see the other person again. A questionnaire was filled to assess themselves and their ideal mate according to traits like attractiveness, financial status, health and parenting qualities.As for the result, the men went after the more attractive women and the women were drawn to material wealth and security.

However, the men, on average, wanted to see about 50 percent of the women again, but the women wanted to meet only about one-third of the men for a second time.As for the conclusion for the study, Women trading off their attractiveness for higher quality men and men looking for any attractive women who will accept them, which would have had an evolutionary advantage in greater numbers of successful offspring.

I wonder how true is the last sentence (would have had an evolutionary advantage in greater numbers of successful offspring). Does it mean rich guys are looking after beautiful women because they want to produce more quality-looking children and also well-groomed next generation?

And for the lady, they trade off their good looks for money and security in life?

Do you think they will be happy ever after in marriage? What do you think?

“Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your heart or burn down your house, you can never tell.”

If you have an argument with your loved one just now or you had gone through a bitter relationship before. You may know that LOVE is full of joy, sorrow, sadness and happiness. Perhaps, appreciate what you have now and continue to blossom the love because the story below is a 10 years relationship ended up with plenty of tears and bitterness that only the one really experience it can feel the pain that carry him to the rest of his life.

The real story is rephrased by Sharen Sia from the original source for better reading: source greyshadow reader

I have been together with Clara (not a real name) for 10 years. We stay together for the past 5 years. This coming year we are planning to tie our knot and busy preparing for our wedding, less than 3 months time we are going to be husband and wife. My dream will come true and I hope that Clara and I can proceed to next level of life after marriage. I always wanted the best for her, the wedding decoration and arrangement is within her preference that I have strive very hard to fulfill. What could be happier to see your wife to become the happiest bride on that day. While eager to wait for the wedding day to arrived, yesterday she came back and told me she wanted to break up with me because she falls in love to another guy. I couldn’t have believed that this could happen to me and my heart is so aching as if was being torn to thousand pieces.

I don’t have intention to write this down at first, but yesterday I dreamt of her. I couldn’t hold back my tears that I woke up and cried in the darkness. It’s really difficult to put down 10 years of relationship and carry on with my life, the sweet and sour moment we spent together keep flashing in my mind, her pretty smile still remained fresh in my mind that I could never seen again, I am useless, I am hopeless, I can’t do anything because her heart was never mine again and have changed.

Actually, I did not hate the third person in our relationship; I hated her for not loving me anymore, if she loved me, there is no way the third person can come in and succeeded to take her away from me.

I sit down and think for long hours, our relationship, reason I could think of is that personalities between both of us are different, and she’s an outgoing person while I am not. Within this 10 years thing changed a lot, we try to change ourselves to adapt each other. She started to hang out lesser while I changed myself to be a better man. I use to think changing for her is to show my love to her and I feel worthy. I am bad temper guy; I use to frown in front of her most of the time, due to different personalities as she always went out and come home late. It’s inevitable that I would feel displeasure. Unfortunately, during break up, she uses this as a reason not to see me suffer again. What can I say as loving her has no regret in my life.

In the end, I wishfully hope that I can carry on with my life and recover as soon as possible.

A day gone, a day without Clara in my life, returning home has never been the same, she had cleared all her belonging, remaining left was just her toiletries stuff in bathroom, nothing much of her belonging can be seen. Cloth and shoe closet are emptied. After seeing all her belonging was emptied, I started to feel down again. Recall back the good times when she open the shoe closet and wearing her shoe while I waited her to go out for dinner, all this remained a memory that will never repeat again. The worst part is how I am going to face the difficulty to sleep tonight. Thinking back this afternoon at workplace, I wasn’t so sad during those period, but after listening to a sad song, once again I couldn’t hold back my tears, I tell myself, please, please don’t cry in here. My heart is so sour and aching that the incident still hunts me and wouldn’t let go. I was pleased that working can let me get off the sadness for a while. While the sadness still on, I still need face another difficulty to inform all my colleagues about the cancellation of the wedding, GOD, how should I tell them and did I tell you that she work in the same department with me? Yet again I still need to face a lot of relatives who already know we are going to get married. My life is like falling from high to the bottom of the floor, I felt painful, suffering, suffocated, stress and depressed. I am a living corpse. I feel more suffered than dying.

Two weeks has past, I slowly started to accept the fact and reality, the feeling of loneliness and feeling of not going home still there. I hate being alone in the living room, going back to an empty house, no one to talk to, watching TV alone till midnight and doesn’t feels like going to bed. Seeing the bed and sleeping alone reminds me about those days with her. I hate it and wanted to cry out loud, cry out all the loneliness and sadness out, but I couldn’t because it already impossible to getting her back as her heart has changed to another guy. Don’t know why recently I hate her, I hate her to disappoint me, I hate her for being so cruel to me and I hate her for not loving me. The hate has however make me to have a courage to get a new girlfriend, but I know this will only psychology mend my broken heart, to gain back what I lost and look for a replacement but I can’t be so selfish that I shouldn’t be so unfair to another person. But once again, I am feeling very lonely; my life is full of sorrow as if I am living in a dark and lonely planet.

The mixed feeling between miss and hate is killing me, hate in the heart, but other side of me still hope that she would never leave me. As torturing as I was thinking to reap my heart and take it out away from inside.

I wish I could take a long vacation, getting away from this sad place, but seeing a lot of workload on hand doesn’t allow me to do so. Every now and then, when going to work reminds me of those old days both of us taking LRT (Terminal Train) together, during lunch hour reminds me of those old days having lunch together. Those memories keep flashing in my mind I can’t forget. Maybe we have been staying together for 5 years, she has become so dominant in my life and already been part of my life, I still haven’t ready yet to change, I don’t have a direction, I’m just like a boat sailing in the middle of the sea and lost direction and don’t know where to head to. Tomorrow is another day, how am I going to take it and feel sad again.

Loving you in my life has never regret.

-END-

Thank you for reading and I hope that this true story could help you to appreciate what you have now and love the one you love and treasure he/she.

As the topic goes, if men are from Mars and women are from Venus, it may explain at least one of their shared beliefs; Men and women can’t be real friends.

Do you agree? Before you start answering that, let us see conversation below about friendships between guys and gals raises the question made so popular by the movie, “When Harry Met Sally.”

Sally: We are just going to be friends, OK?
Harry: Great, friends. It’s the best thing…You realize, of course, that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I’m saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape, or form - is that men and women can’t be friends, because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That’s not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No, you don’t.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: No, you don’t.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You’re saying I’m having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I’m saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you’re saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive.
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail them, too.
Sally: What if they don’t want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn’t matter, because the sex thing is already out there, so the friendship is ultimately doomed, and that is the end of the story.

Right? or Wrong?. Some argue that “The belief that men and women can’t be friends comes from another era in which women were at home and men were in the workplace, and the only way they could get together was for romance”. Others might think “Almost every time you see a male-female friendship, it winds up turning into romance.”

Let’s us see from a different perspective and group them:

Female in a relationship having close male friends:
Pretty much thought that friends are important, through your life you may have “best” friends who were male even in a relationship. Sometimes you may want to pull away from male friends, because they wanted more than friendship. There is a difference between lust and friendship and the difference is usually pretty clear. I understand that everyone needs friends, sometimes you need your male friends input and sometimes your girlfriends input.

 But do bear in mind that you should keep distance between your male friend because you may sense little jealousy from your partner at times, it’s normal because they are human beings too. Just value your male friend as much as your female friend and don’t miss out your loved one. No matter how honest or sincere or harmless it may be, female in a relationship should be cautious when maintaining friendships with opposite sex. Understanding, trust and communication hold the important roles here.

Single female having close male friends:
You’re probably lying if you say, you don’t have any sexual attraction towards friends in different gender. Even if you don’t doesn’t mean he would think the same like you (I am referring to close friend and not hi-bye friend). Or else then why are you interested becoming his/her friends? Friends or lovers? You can’t gives the answers in the spot because you can’t explain how much you feel towards your partner. You know you love someone and enjoy them as a person, but that feeling is not strong enough to date or marry them.

In one study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships shows that men are more frequently replied that sexual attraction was a prime reason for initiating a friendship, and it could even deepen a friendship. Having said all that and getting back to the point, do you think “HE” can become my close friends forever? It’s a tough question to answer for you. You are the only who can answer that and time will tell.

True or false?

Accordingly to Wikipedia, Love at first sight is an emotional condition whereby a person feels romantic attraction for a stranger on the first encounter with the stranger. The term may be used to refer to a mere sexual attached or crush, but it usually refers to actually falling in love with someone literally the very first time one sees him or her, along with the deep desire to have an intimate relationship with that person. The stranger may or may not be aware that the other person has any such notion.

You’ve fallen in love when:

#1: You miss every moment with her, virtually every sentences from her. Your life stops and all you can think of is her. You don’t seem to get anything done and every moment your sweetheart’s face comes in front of you.

#2: She is the angel from Heaven. Your sweetheart is flawless. You overlook all her faults and weaknesses. You believe true love can overcome all. This is love at first sight.

#3: You start missing your love like you haven’t seen her in ages, when actually you just said goodbye.

#4: You are happy and joyfull and can’t stop smilling when she is around. You become sad and depressed as soon as she leaves.

#5: You are not a very comprising person but your sweetheart changed you completely. Now you are more comprising and a wonderfully understanding person.

Psychologists say that love at first sight depends on our psychological state at the moment. It takes about 30 seconds to fall in love or precisely speaking to estimate whether the person is worth to fall in love with. By the way psychologists claim that men fall in love first. When you fall in love at the first sight you are usually ready and willing to fall in love. Of cause the main part in falling in love is given to the appearance, voice, gestures, smell. Men are searching their partner to complete the criteria such as to fill up all the necessary categories like “tall, blond, blue-eyed, looks good, has a style and nice manners”.

However, some theories actually suggested that we fall in love not from the first sight but from the first smell. We pay much attention to what our eyes and ears tell us but on the subconscious level the way the person smells play a very big part in his or her expression on us although we don’t recognize it.

LOVE at first sight is very much true! Just remember: love has it’s ups and downs and do embrace the love wings.

Ever wonder what’s in his mind? Here are 33 facts, believe me or not, I show this to 10 guys in my workplace and 8 out of 10 says are 90% accurate. Girls must read this to have better understand about guys and guys should read this to know themselves better.

Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.


Guys hate flirts.

When a guys says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.

Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about .

When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.

Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.

Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.

When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.

When a girl says “no”, a guy hears it as “try again tomorrow”.

You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.

Guys love their moms.

A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.

A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.

You can never understand him unless you listen to him.

If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.

Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.

Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses.

Guys are very open about themselves.

It’s good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him wait that long.

Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.

Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.

If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.

Guys think too much.

Guys fantasies are unlimited.

Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does!

Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!

Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.

You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.

If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.

Guys hate girls who overreact.

Guys love you more than you love them IF they are serious in your relationships.

Dear ladies, clear now? Guys, how true are the above facts applicable to you? Any comments?