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Women and Men are insensitive? That’s not TRUE!! Women tend to be more caring than guys because of our chile-bearing behaviour, but then how about men? One specific reason I could think of is: Because they just don’t bother!!

Why I say that? Herewith are some stories to be shared:

Story 1: Tonight was his last baseball game of the season, he’s their star pitcher. I bought him flowers. How does he react when I surprise him at the end of the game? He complains about his back hurting, storms off to the car to get his clothes & the pecks my cheek & leaves with his friends. Are all men so insensitive? Is it just because he is not that into me??

Story 2: My bf doesn’t have a car and he stays with his older brother and two friends in an apartment. When we are planning for a weekend stay, he mentioned,” I donno if you can come or you’re not allowed to ..” I was like, what does that mean and he says his bro wasn’t comfortable with it and didn’t like the ides of seeing his younger bro being flirtatious with the gf. OK fine and it just really hurt because I’m not sure when can see him again and if he really missed him, does it matter with his bro? Put it his way, we can figure out another solution of spending time together.But now I can’t decide if he is just being insensitive about my feeling or his older brother’s feelings.

Story 3: My ex-boyfriend and I just ended a 3 year relationship. We have gone through alot..living together etc. And I still have these horrible cravings to call him and to talk to him and i know that is normal. But during the whole break-up, he was completely insensitive to my feelings. I told him all the things I learned from him and how much love I will always have for him. And he has told me nothing. All he does now is go out every night and get drunk with his “new” friends.

Does he really not care about anything anymore, or is it just his way of getting over me? How can he be so care-free about suddenly not seeing me everyday or talking to me everyday for 3 years!! Why is he so insensitive?

Story 4: We met online, and in our first conversation I realized we had known each other as teenagers, which only heightened my excitement. After a few phone conversations, we made a dinner date and things goin on pretty well. However, as time goes by, I realised that he felt bored whenever I talked about my personal problems and feelings. He will give me that-kind-of-bored-look, and even to the extent of dozing off, making me felt hurt. Come one, are guys just being insensitive? Why can’t u just lend me your ears for a while?

Story 5: Insensitive men look for subtle things in the relationship that are unpleasant. They use these trials or tribulations to justify leaving. You are left wondering what went wrong because rarely will he tell you the exact reason. This also works in reverse where the woman leaves and the man is left wondering. However, insensitive men will never admit they are chauvinists born out of fear. It’s because they are continually threatened by the modern realization that women—an animal he doesn’t understand at all.

 As a conclusion: If your heart tells you he is no good then just have to talk to him. Relationships are hard and probably aren’t meant to be easy. And sometimes they just don’t work out. But, they are worth working for and sometimes a little fighting is just what happens.

Consider this statistical from Female:

(a) The most pleasure after…

• 67% A romantic holiday
• 15% A good night’s sleep
• 10% Finding Rm100

(b) Nothing is more pleasurable than…

• 40% A 3-day weekend getaway
• 28% A passionate kiss
• 21% A gift in a small box

(c) A gift of pleasure is ….

• 32% Diamond jewellery
• 26% A bottle of fragrance
• 19% A bunch of roses

Take Action now!!

#1: Go and grab some classic romance movies, such as Titanic, Pretty Woman, Breakfast at Tiffany’s etc. These movies are there to touch the heart of your loved one and bring out the tenderness in both of you. I strongly recommend Pretty Woman, simply because of its fantastic story line and the never-dying romantic sprirt of the couples. Not to mention its sound track, GREAT! And of course the touching part when she just wanna to embrace you like never- let- you- go type of feeling.

#2: Consider a creative approach. Don’t send flowers. This is because they’ll die and making them impractical to symbolise internity. Instead why not get her a living plant. Roses symbolize love. Red and white roses signify unity. Plants that give off fragrances such as lavender and violets will be appreciated by your loved ones too.

#3: Go back to the old happy memories by visiting places where you first had the intimate moments like the first kiss, first embrace or first outing place. It is to rekindle your love by remembering the sweet memories. 

#4: Writing a love letter to the one you cherish is another great idea. Write the letter when you are in a good mood. Give yourself some time to think about what you want to say . Write in a creative, fun and positive manner. Express sincerely your feelings and thoughts. Another suggestion would be love poem - just imagine you are the reborn of Romeo!!

#5: If you think you can sing pretty well, compile your own love songs on a CDs and send to her. Some of the all time favorites: Love me tender by Elvis, I’ll be there by Mariah Carey , My heart will go on by Celin Dion, I will always love you by Whitney Houston, The Righteous Brothers - Unchained Melody and Richard Marx’s Right here waiting.

The most important thing after all is to show her your support and sincerity to maintain a healthy and growing relationship. By reassure her your thoughfulness and paying attention to her. Simple yet lovely..

Good Luck.

Suspicious about your relationship? Have the gut feelings of something went wrong in the relationship? Here are the signs and symptoms…

#1: Determine your thoughts towards the relationship. Women have strong six-sense!  You are being ignored by your partner and find yourself questioning about the capacity to “love”. Obviously he diverted his affections to that person.

#2: She mentions about this other person more five times in most of the conversation. She may want to share some of his details with you, upon your request. Example, if you asked her about him. Or she want to tell you about this other person and might want to involve you, depending about your girl’s behaviours.

#3: Do expect some secretive sms, email, special names and special things only for the two of them.  Some of these affair relationships are the result of unfinished business from adolescence. Example having problem in socializing with the opposite sex, and “falling in and out of love” a number of times, which is so important and vital for adolescent development.

#4: Guys are more transparent in expressing their favouritism. He may ‘like you’ depends on your stability, understanding and the thought of losing the family. He will come home late, claims that he has  heavy workload recently, tend to be forgetful and inpatient and also didn’t pay attention to you. Worst, he forgot about the annivesary and your birthday.

#5: He claims that your untolerable behaviour attempt him to find an easir exit from the relationship or marriage. He has no control and prefoess deep sadness for “hurting” you but his feeling drives him.

#6: Lastly, he says he didn’t love you anymore!! This sentence expresses everything.

 What should you do when you found out the affair?

I suggest: Expect your loved one feelings for the other person to fade. They will fade quickly if this is a pure “I’ve fallen out of love” affair. The “romance” of adolescent love affairs start quickly and end as abruptly. Or vice versa. Play with your strategies and win the battle if you thought its worth to save the relationship.

Wonder how to stay close while are thousand miles apart? Here are the ways..

#1: Trust

No one should and can control another person, knowing their loved one is so far away, and nobody likes to be controlling. Mutual trust is established when there is no feeling of insecurity, suspicion and impulses that would bring the relationship down. Trust is much tougher considering when are aparted, but its the most important element to maintain a healthy relationship.

#2: Communication

Applicable to every sort of relationship, friendship and kinship. Do make your loved knows what you’ve been doing and thinking by using the conventional type to the techie way such as phone calls, emails, MSN, Skype, IMVU etc.. Send her a cute sms or email once a week is enough to chill her day up…

#3: Be Patient

Do spend time listen to your loved one, be there for her whenever she needs you, be her hero and the man of her world. Learn to be patient, showing her that you value the relationship and willingly to work patiently to bloom the relationship and even some sacrifices. There’s no free lunch in this world!!!

#4: Be honest

Honesty is the path to intimacy, be honest to your feeling, speak out your thoughts, feelings, needs, wants, problems. Learning to reduce the boundaries of a relationship and be willingly to share about everything.

#5: Give freedom

to your partner! More time with your friends, family and also jobs! Have some quality time alone, doing things that you like and indulgence the most. Most importantly, being aparted gives you a chance to maintain your own identity, somethings that can get lost when couples spend all of their free time together.

#6: Be Creative

Be more interactive to the relationship, take initiative to send a creative photo calender, a drawing of each other in the unforgettable scene, and might be able to see the relationship growing. Additional example, a workout t-shirt with your perfume…

#7: Talk about marriage and future

If you think you are in a stable relationship, discussing how you are going to get to that point will help to prove to your loved one that the relationship is appreciated and all the efforts have been made to grow it positively. Bear in mind, say it for the sake of say it and from the bottom of your heart, Women are sensitive and we can feel your heart!!

#8: Call it off

Knowing when to say goodbye. When communication is one-sided and shows no new reformation of sparks, when arguments are more frequent than healthy communication (of course you had tried the best to solve the problems). These are the signs and symptom that a healthy blossoming relationship is impossible to achieve.

Key message: When absence makes the heart fonder!!

I think it’s applicable with the right methods, right timing and of course the right person